The follow-up after a first date is rarely as simple as: "I like you, I had fun, let's get together again." There are layers of meaning in texts to unpack, not to mention timing: who reaches out first and how quickly does the other person respond? It can all feel like a giant chess match.
Either party can play coy because a) They don t want to look too eager/desperate and b) They re not sure how the other person feels, but there are a number of cues that can confirm your date is going swimmingly.
Wanting More One-on- One Time
When your date wants to spend time with you alone instead of calling in backup for a group date, it likely means that he s comfortable around you and wants to spend more time getting to know you.One tactic to combat a boring date, he says,is calling in reinforcement friends as social buffers.
Extending the Date
Suggesting something (other than going back to someone's place) after dinner is a solid indication that your date s asking for an encore. If they re willing to extend the date past the easy out" first location of a bar or coffee shop, that s a good sign.
Suggesting *Another* Date
A common time to suggest another date is at the end of the first one. Some may do this as a friendly gesture before making a quick exit, but it can't be bad if your date is enthusiastic enough to suggest a second meet-up. They just have to make good on their word.
The Friendly Follow-Up Right After You Say Good-bye
A good sign that a date went *really* well, is when someone giddily follows up after a date to let you know they had a great time without waiting around. The alternative: If Im not interested after the date, I ll head straight home and begin my process of fading out of this girls life (following up is not part of that process).Of
course, not hearing back right away isn t a definite rejection, but the excitement of a speedy follow-up message speaks for itself.
When you start dating someone and haven't established exclusivity, it's always important to measure signs that the other person is as on-board as you are. This could mean making regular conversation or establishing dates at a consistent frequency.